Love or leverage

Dear Tales,

I met this guy early last year, and from everything I saw, he seemed like someone who was genuinely ready for love and marriage. He appeared single, focused, and intentional about building a future.

We started as friends, and over time, our bond grew stronger. Eventually, he proposed, and I said yes with so much hope in my heart. I truly believed I had found someone I could build a life with. I am a hardworking woman with a stable job, and from the beginning, we both agreed to save money individually so we could prepare for marriage. It felt like we were on the same path, working towards the same goal. But as time went on, things started to change. I began to notice that he was always in need of money there was always one urgent issue or another. At first, I didn’t think too much of it. I helped because I cared. I supported him because I believed in us. However, it slowly became a pattern. Anytime I tried to talk to him about his spending or express my concerns, he would shut me down and say I talk too much. Instead of understanding me, he made me feel like I was the problem. Now, it has become a habit. He constantly asks me for money, promising to pay me back, but he never does. What hurts even more is that sometimes he borrows from me just to solve other people’s problems, while I’m left feeling used and unappreciated. This has caused so many arguments between us. And the most painful part is how he reacts when I say no he can go days without speaking to me, as if my only value to him is what I can give financially. I find myself slowly losing interest, not because he is a bad person, but because his actions are draining me emotionally. I feel tired, unappreciated, and confused. This isn’t the kind of love I imagined for myself.

What do I do?